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You donít know your partnerís HIV status?

two things to remember  

- no fucking without condom, no come in your mouth

Problems with the condoms?

What to do if it wasnít safe?

Why check things out?

Gonorrhea, syphilis, hepatitis, chlamydia

When you have sex with several menÖ

Fucking without condoms?

False sense of security

  Ask about the HIV status

  -  Making tacit assumptions

  -  Picking the healthy-looking ones

  -  Pulling out: Not coming inside

  -  Only topping

HIV positive but not contagious?

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Are you a guy who has sex with other guys?

For some time now, more men are contracting HIV and other sexually-transmitted infections while having sex with other men. Even younger guys! The risk of contracting HIV is ten times higher during sex between men than it is in sex between a man and a woman.

This brochure shows you how to play safe. No matter what the situation.

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Instant gratification?

Anonymous sex and instant gratification? Sometimes thereís no need for words. So each partner has to know how to protect himself. Take responsibility for yourself.

Time and again

Having sex with guys you have known for a long time? Trust can sometimes be misplaced, and assumptions can be wrong. Even if a past HIV test turned out to be negative, that doesnít mean it is still true today. Talk to your partners about how to protect yourselves.

For ever and ever

Met the love of your life? Being in love can make talking about unpleasant stuff or safer sex a little more difficult. Get some support Ė you could go to Checkpoint.

In a long-term relationship? Happiness and security depend on the expectations you had and keeping promises you once made. Do they still hold? Talk about it. And keep talking.

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You donít know your partnerís HIV status?

Safer sex is your best protection!

two things to remember

==>  Always use a condom for fucking

==>  No come in the mouth when sucking

This is true for anonymous sex, for fuck buddies or for sex with your husband-to-be.

==>  Pick a condom thatís the right size. That way, it wonít break or slip off. You can check your size on www.mysize.ch.

==>  Only use water- or silicon-based lube. Donít use oil, Vaseline etc. as these will damage the condom.

==>  If you do get sperm in your mouth then spit it right out! If possible, rinse your mouth with a strong liquor like whiskey or cognac or just plain water and spit that out, too.

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Problems with condoms?

==> You canít get hard or you lose your hard-on when you put on a condom?

==> Your partner doesnít want to use a condom?

You arenít the only one with these problems.

Go talk about it at Checkpoint or one of the local AIDS-service organisations.

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What to do if it wasnít safe?

You can reduce the chances of HIV infection by using emergency treatment (PEP or post-exposure prophylaxis) within the first 72 hours after a risky encounter Ė i.e. fucking without a condom or a condom broke during fucking.

==> Get advice straightaway from a Checkpoint or one of the local AIDS-service organizations 

==> The quicker you seek treatment, the lower the risk of infection.

          ==>  PEP therapy is not a substitute for safer sex!

 

Flu or primo-infection?

==> You had a risky encounter but didnít follow-up with a PEP consultation?

==> In the weeks after you had flu-like symptoms (fever, headaches, swollen glands, skin rash, muscle aches, diarrhoea, nausea etc.)?

These could be signs of a primo-infection with HIV!

Go straight to Checkpoint or to a HIV testing facility and get it checked out 

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Why check things out?

==> It settles your fears and uncertainties. You can act better knowing the facts.

==> If you arenít infected then youíre in luck! Next time, play safe and save yourself all this stress.

==> If youíve been infected with HIV, then you can promptly start a course of treatment. Starting earlier minimizes the risk of damage to the immune system.

==> If youíre in the early stages of infection, then youíre highly contagious. Protect your sex partners and make sure you always practice safer sex.

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Gonorrhea, syphilis, hepatitis, chlamydia

In addition to HIV, there are other viruses, bacteria and fungi that can be transmitted during sex Ė sometimes even when you practice safer sex. Some of them are quite nasty and can increase the risk of HIV infection.

The most common infections are gonorrhea, syphilis, hepatitis, chlamydia, herpes and genital warts.

The majority of these sexually transmitted infections (STI) are easy to treat Ė if they are detected early enough.

 

How to detect uninvited guests

==> Discharge from the penis or the anus

==> Burning sensation when peeing, itchness around the urethra

==> Dull pain in anus

==> Pain or swelling in your balls

==> Lesions, blistering, rashes, redness on the penis, testicles, anus or in the mouth

==> Rashes

 

What to do with uninvited guests?

==> Get it checked out at Checkpoint, at your doctorís or at a dermatology clinic.

==> If you do have a sexually transmitted infection, then tell your sexual partners so that they can get tested and treated, too.

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When you have sex with several menÖ

Öthen we recommend that you:

==> Get vaccinated for hepatitis A and B.

==> Get checked out for sexually transmitted infections at least once every six months.

==> You can do this at Checkpoint, or you could find a doctor with whom you can talk openly about your sex life.

==> If you are HIV positive, then make sure you get tested for sexually transmitted infections during your regular check ups!

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Fucking without condoms?

Fucking without condoms is possible with a long-term relationship. This is how it works:

1. Go to Checkpoint for a joint test and counselling.

2. For 3 months, have safer sex every time.

3. At the end of 3 months have another joint test with your partner.

4. If you are both HIV negative, then make a clear agreement: either we donít have sex with other men, or we only have safer sex with other men.

5. If one of you breaks the agreement, then he should tell the other immediately. Determine in advance how you want to do this. Revert to having safer sex until you have both been tested to rule out an infection.

 

How safe is this method?

It is extremely safe if both parties can uphold the agreement.

==> If you both decide to only have sex with each other, then it is doubly difficult to tell your partner that you had unprotected sex with another person: unfaithful and unsafe!

==> Talk about the Ďworst-case scenarioí before it happens, and decide how you will tell each other. This way, should it be necessary, you can tell each other right away.

 

Fucking with several men without using condoms?

Is it possible to reach such agreements with several partners and have joint tests with all of them in order to have unprotected sex without worrying about it?

In theory, yes. However, many men are infected after having unprotected sex with casual partners who they knew.

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False sense of security

Lots of men try to avoid HIV while fucking without a condom Ė even if they donít know their partnerís HIV status.

The most popular assumptions Ė and whether they work Ė are presented on the following pages.

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Ask about the HIV status

It is important to talk about HIV with your regular sex partners. However, asking questions of new or casual sex partners doesnít necessarily get you the right answers, because:

==> Many men with HIV donít know that they are infected.

==> Many HIV-positive men donít tell their casual sex partners that they are infected, for obvious reasons. Even if you ask them.

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Making tacit assumptions

Tacit assumptions about a sexual partnerís HIV status does not protect you. For example:

You are HIV negative and you think: if he were HIV positive, then he would protect me from infection. But he doesnít Ė so he must be HIV negative like me.

You are HIV positive and you think: if he were HIV negative, then he would protect himself from infection. But he doesnít Ė so he must be HIV positive like me.

Perhaps both of you are wrong and are therefore taking unnecessary risks!

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Picking the healthy-looking ones

HIV infection isnít something visible. You canít tell whether someone is HIV positive or HIV negative by looking at him.

Youth, good looks or a muscular build canít tell you anything about someoneís HIV status or other sexually transmitted infections.

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Pulling out: Not coming inside

==> Withdrawing before coming doesnít reduce the risk of infection for the guy whoís fucking (see opposite page).

==> The risk of infection for the guy whoís being fucked is lower, but without a condom, there is still a risk of infection even without ejaculation.

==> Finally, no one can control coming 100%!

          Pulling out is risky for both partners.

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Only topping

Only topping doesnít prevent an HIV infection. The top runs the risk of absorbing HIV and other STI through the tip of his dick. You can still contract HIV from topping.

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HIV positive but not contagious?

HIV-positive people with an effective course of antiretroviral therapy donít transmit the virus during sex, but only under 3 conditions:

1. The viral load has been below detectable levels for at least six months.

2. Adherence to HIV therapy and regular check ups by a doctor.

3. There are no other sexually transmitted infections in neither partner (e.g. syphilis).

 

And to whom does this apply?

==> People in long-term relationships in which one partner is HIV positive and the other is HIV negative.

==> Only in a trusting relationship can a HIV-negative person be certain that the 3 conditions are met.

==> Only then, you can make a mutual decision on whether or not to use condoms with the advice of a doctor.

Condoms should still always be used in new relationships or for casual sex.

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What else?

Are there any other ways to reduce the risk of HIV infection without safe sex?

Circomecision: Cut men have a lower risk of getting infected with HIV during sex with women.

It is doubtful whether this is also the case for men who have sex with other men. And if it were true, then it would only be true for cut men who top during fucking.

Circomecision does not protect you from HIV infection nor from contracting any other sexually transmitted infection.

Pills and gels: There are studies underway that are looking at the use of pills (PrEP) and gels (microbicides) which when used before sex are meant to reduce the risk of HIV infection. Currently, there are no products available that protect against HIV infection.

Do not take HIV medications if you are not HIV positive! They will not work, and they could do you a great deal of harm!

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Addresses

Go to www.aids.ch and find the following under ADDRESSES/LINKS

==> The addresses of the nearest AIDS-service organisations

==> The addresses of all PEP clinics and testing centers

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 i n d e x

safer gay sex

 

From man to man

You donít know your partnerís HIV status?

two things to remember  

- no fucking without condom, no come in your mouth

Problems with the condoms?

What to do if it wasnít safe?

Why check things out?

Gonorrhea, syphilis, hepatitis, chlamydia

When you have sex with several menÖ

Fucking without condoms?

False sense of security

  Ask about the HIV status

  -  Making tacit assumptions

  -  Picking the healthy-looking ones

  -  Pulling out: Not coming inside

  -  Only topping

HIV positive but not contagious?

What else?

Addresses

 

 

   

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